Wow, where did the past 13 years go?? First let me explain a bit about me. I seem to be in an unusual situation. In all of my research I have found no instances such as mine. I am Birthmom to 3 wonderful children whom I relinquished when they were ages 5 1/2, 4, and 3 1/2. This was voluntary on my part and I picked out the family. I insisted on a n open adoption and have known from day one their address and phone number. I have visited the A-Mom and she I during our 13 years together. During this time I have not had any contact with the kids, it has all been through the A-Mom.
1 1/2 years ago our oldest (then 16 1/2) ran away from her home. We all decided I would try to get in touch with her to make sure she was ok. We talked for a few weeks and she finally turned herself in. During her time away accusations came out about her abusing her siblings. This all went to court and she was remanded to foster care. Once she turned in and was in Juvie and foster care we were no longer allowed to contact each other.
Fast forward to current time. She is still in foster care and is turning 18 on May 10. We have been back in contact for about the past month, with permission from her A-Mom. At one point several years ago we talked about meeting all 3 kids together however, given the circumstances with the other kids and her this is not going to happen. However I have a flight up there on May 9 to meet with her. I have no idea what is going to happen. This has been a ride from day one and it has taken all sorts of twists and turns along the way. Im just really not sure what to expect from any involved. It is both scary and exciting. I have not slept in a few weeks and dont anticipate it getting any better.
I will post with my story upon my return. Any ideas, advice, words of wisdom................
Lauren
