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Thank you so much for the warm welcome. I have been reading posts from all of the boards and trying to gauge the general "mood" of the boards before I really post alot.
I have gone to a few chatrooms around the net to chat with people and have made the mistake of saying something the wrong way and have been the target of much anger. I sure would like to avoid that on here.
It is difficult enough to deal with all the emotions involved in being an aparent without being the bullseye when you make a mistake with what you say. I am hoping that I can find a friendlier forum here.
Our current situation with our bmom is fairly calm, but a few months ago, It was very volatile.
She lived with us the last 5 months of her pregnancy and we became very close over that time. It was such a blessing to be able to go through most of it with her. We discussed what her wishes were and together built a plan for an open adoption that we could all agree on.
I know that in the end, she really wanted to keep the baby but her parents made her decisions for her as she was only 15 at the time. I truly wish that there were more options available for teen mothers. I am not sure if she would have kept the baby, but I just wish that her parents hadn't made her decision for her. I know she will harbor some resentment over that.
The only thing I would change about the entire process, if I could, is to make counseling mandatory for all parties involved. I think that it would help the bmom's make sure that they have made the right decision.
Well, I have rambled on long enough....thanks for listening.
Wendy
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