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MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE RECENTLY BEEN ON A ROLLER COASTER RIDE. WE HAVE BEEN TRYING TO ADOPT FOR THE LAST FIVE YEARS. HAVE JUST RECENTLY COMPLETED OUR HOME STUDY AND ARE APPROVED THROUGH THE LOCAL DHS TO ADOPT. IN THE MIDDLE OF THE WHOLE PROCESS WE WERE PUT IN TOUCH WITH A YOUNG GIRL WHO IS PREGNANT. WE MET WITH HER THIS PAST WEEKEND, WE TALKED ABOUT THE REASONS SHE WAS GIVING UP THE BABY, AND THE REASONS WE WANTED THE BABY. EVERYTHING WAS FINE AND THEN SHE JUST HAPPENED TO RUN ACROSS THE FATHER OF THE BABY. SHE TOLD HIM THAT SHE HAD FOUND A HOME FOR THE BABY, HE ADAMANTLY REFUSED TO SIGN HIS RIGHTS AWAY, AND WANTSS HER TO RAISE THE BABY, HOWEVER, HE WAS PERFECTLY OK WITH HER GETTING AN ABORTION. I DONT REALLY UNDERSTAND. ANYWAY, WE ARE STILL PURSUING THE ADOPTION THROUGH THE STATE OF OKLAHOMA. WE HAVE BEEN TOLD THAT IF WE WOULD CONSIDER FOSTER/ADOPT THAT OUR CHANCES OF GETTING A BABY ARE GREATER. IS THERE ANY TRUTH TO THIS? MY HUSBAND HAD NEVER HAS THE CHANCE TO HAVE CHILDREN, AND I HAD TO HAVE AN EMERGENCY HYSTERECTOMY JUST AFTER THE BITH OF MY DAUGHTER. WE WOULD REALLY LIKE TO ADOPT A BABY, BUT WERE ARE NOT SURE THAT IF WE AGREE TO FOSTER AND THEN SOMETHING DOES NOT WORK OUT WITH THE BIRTHMOTHER OR FAMILY, HOW WOULD WE GIVE THE BABY BACK? WHAT A SCARY THING TO DO. WE ARE TOLD THAT OUR BEST BET IF WE DONT WANT TO HAVE THE BABY TAKEN AWAY IS TO ADOPT OUTRIGHT. DOES ANYONE HAVE ANY EXPERIENCES WITH THIS? DOES ANYONE HAVE ANY ADVICE TO US? WE HAVE BEEN TOLD THAT THE WAIT TO ADOPT A BABY COULD BE VERY EXTENSIVE. IM NOT SURE HOW LONG WE ARE PREPARED TO WAIT. IF ANYONE HAWS BEEN THROUGH THE FOSTER ADOPT, OR JUST THE ADOPT THROUGH THIER STATE DEPT OF HUMAN SERVICES WE WOULD LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOU. THANK YOU FOR READING THIS. PLEASE FEEL FREE TO REPLY. ANY STORIES ANYONE HAS WOULD BE GREATLY APPRECIATED. SINCERELY, WAITING IN OKLAHOMA.