Dear Lewey,
I am a new birthmom at 44 yrs old. Although my situation is different because I already have 3 wonderful teenagers. When I discovered I was pregnant a year ago I was shocked...I thought I was too old! The pregnancy was hard on me, but it was worth every minute! Our son was born strong and healthy, and on Christmas Eve he went home with his new family. Although I still wrestle with the decision, deep down I know he will be given a better life with his new parents, more than what I could.

One thing I've learned from my other 3 children is that you can never replace one with another! They are all unique and individual people. If you are serious about having a baby now, make sure you are prepared for the personal sacrifices of raising a child. I must admit I am burned out as a mom (so I knew I couldn't cope with starting all over again), but at the same time I am starting to reap the rewards of all the hard work and sacrifices.

Talk to your OB/GYN, then relax! I've also learned that the more stressed you are the less chance you will conceive. Being a parent is hard work, and it's ok to be scared.....all new parents are! Most importantly...do what YOU want, not what others tell you to do!

The decision you made 22 years ago to relinquish your son was based on what was happening in your life then, and what you felt was best for him. If you want to bring another life into this world, then it should be because your ready now to take on the responsibilty of teaching, guiding and caring for a totally new person over the next 18 years (at least).

Besides if Madonna can have her first child at 40....why not us!!!

Good Luck