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I have recently adopted a son through a private adoption. The birthmother had 2 children from a prior marriage. She has now told me that she plans to marry the birthfather and have a child within the next few years. My concern is for my son. If we keep the lines of communication this open am I not obligated to tell my son everything when he asked? How will he feel knowing that he is the only child she chose not to keep and that he has a full sibling that he may never meet? Do I want a child or even a teenager to have to deal with that information? I am considering cutting off communication with the birthmother (with the exception of sending pictures) with the philosophy of if I don't know then I am not keeping anything from him or lying about it. What is best for my son???