Hi Paula,
Whatever the reason its not happening for you as you planned. I am sure you knew there would be some problems along the way, but did not expect this. I think you are stuck in this situation because, if I may say, you won't "unstick" yourself. Why wait. Why not go to plan B.....C,D,E..... and adopt internationally. The situation has gone on so long because you have not moved forward. Perhaps this is not the road for you, and you are supposed to move onto something else. Especially if age is a factor. Money comes and goes. Just invest in a sure thing or the most stable you can and your money won't be wasted. Besides, there is a baby out there waiting for you! Just my two cents.
michelle
