I'm new to this (and any group). Here's a bit about our situation. We want to adopt a newborn and hope for an open adoption. We're willing to accept less contact if a birthmother isn't ready for it, but hope to have some family members that our child can know while growing up. We'd like a non-obvious adoption, but that doesn't mean only caucasian.
We've been "second choice" about 5~6 times since 4/01 . We did just have a close call, but found out that our facilitator wasn't candid with us or the birthfather. - we got dumped!
Now, here we are more than 2 years later and I don't know where to turn. Most families that are with our agency (that I've met) are not happy, our "facilitator" has proven ineffective, and just about every facilitator I've searched on the web wants $8~10K just to sign up. We spoke with someone locally. We feel she could help, but she wants $13K. I want to mortgage the house, pay and get on with it. My husband is immobilized. While he is looking forward to being a dad, he keeps looking at the $8K we've already spent and doesn't want to keep spending.
I'm exhaused and starting to loose hope.
BTW yes, I if its meant to happen it will, not before. No, I'm not giving up yet.
