Hi Faith,
Beautiful name honey! Wow, 3 years that's horrible--especially when you think about the fact that that could be much shorter if expectant moms didn't choose abortion....sad, so sad....all those little lives lost when there's so many loving adoptive parents that would jump at the chance to call them their own....
I just wanted to share that, I don't know if you want an infant daughter, but China just has an explosion of births and available adoptions of little girls....because of their 1 child rule no one wants to keep their little girls...the families hold out for a boy because supposedly he's a symbol of wealth and will be able to care for the family when they get older....
There are so many good christian organizations that go to China...cost is roughly about only $15,000-$16,000 and that includes your 2 week trip over there with you and your husband!!! Wow, a vacation too!!! Praise God!!!
Anyway, the name of this christian organization is called America World. They also have children available in the Ukraine (who are usually older children), Russia, and Vietnam....they told me that if you wanted to adopt siblings, Russia is your best bet...
We had the opportunity to meet the christian couple that started this organization...they were here in Tampa for a seminar on international adoptions....lovely, lovely people...all of them...
They started it after they adopted their first adopted daughter from over there and saw that there were so many more orphaned children there just waiting for mommys and daddys!!!!
God, I feel, is leading us in this direction, for us personally....for several reasons....
The wait time isn't too severe--18 months, bad but manageable, start to finish...gives me time to prepare everything I need to do..
More importantly, I believe these children may be healthier due to the lifestyle over there in China....probably not much drug use, they eat well, fish and green tea...they generally are in good health as a whole, you know, population wise....also, I think that they probably are taking good care of themselves for the fact that they're hoping for a boy too..
Also, a HUGE CONCERN of mine regarding adoption, is the birthmother coming back for her child or basically wanting to be a big part of the childs life.....that won't happen from adoptions over there because these children are true ORPHANS...nobody wants them or is looking for them....
I don't know if I have the strength to be a part of an open adoption...God would definitely have to hold me by the hand and lead me there for me to feel comfortable with that...after reading some of the posts on the birthmother's site...I can't even sleep because of those, much less really being involved in their situations you know as a hopeful adoptive parent. I don't have the strength to help a girl through her pregnancy and pay for everything, wait and pray and hope only to have her change her mind at the last minute, for me, for us, my husband and I, that's not within our comfort level right now.....
It's basically because I almost died from a medical procedure actually caused by my fertility specialist---unbelieveable but true...I'm alive, but unfortunately sterile now...
But God is good and I do feel alot more comfort with this Christian organization, there is definitely a peace...
Their phone number is 888-one-child...
Their fees are subject to change due to different travel times of the year...
They also have a website..I would encourage all of you to take a peek...these little girls are precious!!!
Their website is:
www.awaa.org. If you call them, they will send you a nice, free, information book with video I believe if you ask them...
My thought was to adopt a little girl from China, which would probably be about 1 year old and then adopt a newborn son from somewhere else....maybe from a mother here...then I might be ready to help someone else here go through their pregnancy..but not for the first adoption...my husband and I really need it to go as smoothly as possible...
That's kinda my plan...I'm trying to see if I can get on several lists at one time....
Bye for now!!! Best of Blessings to everyone!!!
Melody
Hopeful adoptive mommy to be!!!