[ayj91]

In reading many of these bulletin board postings I find so many people in the same boat as my wife and I. We tried to get pregnant for over 5 years and we had a close call after our first try with infertility drugs but the failed attempt left us so mentally scared, especially my wife, that we decided to stop the drugs. My wife brought up the notion of adopting several times over the next few years but I wasn't going to hear it. For several months she softened me up with the idea of adopting and last July she signed us up to attend a county adoption workshop. I wasn't too excited about adoption at first but I agreed to attend the group study classes in order to obtain our foster care license.

I really started getting into it once the classes started. I was eager to participate in discussions, I was eager to do homework, I was excited about the interviews and home visits with our social worker. I was diligent in filling out all the paperwork and scheduling our fingerprints. I exceeded the 3-5 page biography homework by writing a 15 page (typed) biography detailing my life in hopes it would better our chances in getting a placement A.S.A.P. We recieved our foster care license in December, we met with our new adoption social worker in February and now comes the waiting.

I work at a college computing department as a support tech and everyone I assist praises my patience but I am now seeing that I am not that patient at all. My wife and I found out that our file was submitted to two matching meetings in February but for several reasons we were not chosen. About 2 weeks ago our social worker called asking if we would accept newborn twin girls (we are looking for a girl 0-4 years of age). I told my wife to call the social worker back and tell her that we will continue to discuss it but for now we would like to stick with one girl 0-4 years of age. She was very respectful of our decision and agreed to keep looking for what we specified.

Well, last Sunday while at church I prayed and asked God to let us hear from our social worker this week regarding a match. Two days later my wife was contacted by our social worker. My wife called me at work asking again if we would consider twins because our social worker is looking to place newborn twin girls within the next two weeks and she wants to send our file to the matching meeting. Seeing that I prayed for a phone call and we got it, I assumed that this was what God had in plan for us and I couldn't say no.

It has been a week since we agreed to accepting twins and the waiting to get the final word is killing my wife and I. The twins' social worker was in Arizona last week and the matching meeting isn't scheduled to happen until later this week or early next week.

I would love to hear from others who are waiting to be matched, those who are now placed with a child(ren) with similar stories or even those who can offer advice on how to handle this waiting. I would especially like to hear from parents who adopted twins.