[JanetM]

All,
I am hoping that as adoptive parents you may be able to shed some light on what my birthson's Afather is potentially thinking. In the end it really doesn't matter but I'll admit that I'm puzzling through what he might be thinking. The bfather and I had a visit with our son, our families, and our son's Amom in late February at the adoption agency when our son was five months old. The Afather was unable to attend due to work.

During this visit the Amom told me quite a bit of information about what is going on in their lives. The bfather and I are actually a married couple and there were a lot of reasons due to unresolved past childhood issues that had contributed to our decision to place our son, a completely unplanned pregnancy, for adoption. We have decided to begin trying to conceive another child this Spring since after many months of intense therapy we have found ourselves with a change of heart about parenthood. I just turned 36 so we don't have the luxury of time here.

Prior to the visit I had written the Aparents and explained all of this but explained that we did make the best decision we could based on what we knew about ourselves at the time of our son's birth and we didn't regret making the decision. We told them we thought they were doing a great job, etc, etc.

That said the Amom revealed that the Afather is very upset about the fact that we are planning on trying to conceive again. She told me that he said "What if she doesn't get pregnant right away?" So what is he thinking? Why would he be upset? Does he think we might try to abduct our son? What does it matter to him if I get pregnant right away or not?

The adoption agency made a decision after that visit that they felt the Amom had revealed way to much personal information and banned her from contacting us for two months so right now asking her directly is not an option.



Thoughts, ideas?