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That last bit sounded a bit down. Didn't mean it too!! Fostering is hard, and isn't for everyone -- not just the foster parents, but the children of the foster parents. It's hard to have to say goodby to a child who has lived with you. It's ok to NOT want to foster a child.

It's also ok to not want to adopt outside of your race or to adopt a child with special needs that you feel are more than you can cope with. There is no stigma attached to knowing what you can and cannot do. That's actually a strength that the good caseworkers recognize and applaud! I didn't mean for it to sound as though it was a negative to NOT want to take the step to adopt a child with many unknowns about their future development, etc., and when I reread what I wrote I thought it could be interpreted that way! What I meant to convey was that this is something YOU will need to decide for YOUR family since no one else can make that decision for you.