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I am not in an open adoption, but have recently reunited. I think alot of it is the fear that we will, be cut off. But many of us from the closed adoptions were told that we did not "deserve" to know about our children. It was selfless prior to the adoption, but society made you feel that you just gave your child away without any thoughts or feelings at all.
I understand the whole, I am afraid to ask for fear it will upset someone, but for some if you don't ask--Where will it get you? Will it make the situation any worse? Often times our fears are much worse than the reality. The aparents probably have many of the same fears.
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