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Isabo - beyond the medical facts, names of bfamily, general info, I don't feel there's a moral obligation to answer very personal questions. Some I can see answering, if it has to do with their past. But some..as you said, there are things that you just don't tell your kids or anyone really.

I mean that's just rude, imo. I would NEVER ask my kids' bmom about some things I'm obviously very curious about, but these things are just not my business nor my right to have.

I'm sure my kids might ask some personal questions (why did you choose drugs over me? might be one) but that doesn't mean they'll get an answer they like or acceptable to them. Life's hard that way at times.

As for his family to divulge private details to others or use against you...uh uh...not cool and that would be more than enough for me to not divulge anymore info if they ask you. Just because you relinquished does not mean you are at their every whim, so by all means..."I'm sorry, why do you ask?" might be your answer the next time they ask.