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One other thing I wanted to mention was i never really got emotional or cried about adoption unless I sawe my amom crying about it. I think it was much harder for her to deal with than me. I know this is because she loved me so much and she wanted to be ahead of the game so to speak in adressing questions before they were even asked. (I hope that made sense). IMHO, if I were in your shoes, I would ease up on any adoption related conversations unless your dd came out and outright asked. Sometimes a simple answer like "God knew we would be the best parents and we love you so much" or something to that affect would be the best answer. It is reassuring her and not going into details. I don't think I had any questions a six years old, I just knew that I was "special" because I was adopted and that my aparents loved me more than anything else in life. Of course years ago there was no such thing as open adoption so there was no need to address those issues.
Again, knowing how "I" am, I doubt I could have handled having to share my love with another mother. As far as I was concerned my amom was my mother, no questions asked end of story. Honestly , even today even though I know that I had a biomom and know who she was, I still cannot fathom having to share my love, loyalty or devotion withanyone else but amom. Amom IS my Mom and no one else could ever take her place bio or not.
EZ
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