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Each 18 year old is different. I think that the situation doesn't need to be judged by the daughters age but by the daughters actions. 18, is -not- a magical age and some 18 year olds are far more mature than others.
The big problem is now if she backs away or steps back her daughter may feel a sense of rejection which can be emotionally damaging for her. I'm not saying that she should work against the amom but I don't think that she can just let things go and stop either without hurting her daughter.
I still would go back to my suggestion that I would try to speak to the amom, remind her that you guys made an agreement, and explain to her how hard it would be to change things due to the things with your other children. If you really have a heart to heart with her maybe you can work things out together.
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