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I have NO problem with the idea that my son could 'spy' on me via the internet. Actually, pretty soon into reunion I told him about my previous marriages and so on, no secrets there. Frankly HE has been my biggest 'secret' in my life,and that one he absolutely knows about...
Now we actually are BOTH on facebook and friends. Some of my other relatives have started relationships with him because of that.
OK sorry, little off off topic that was.
If I'd known my son's name before, I would have googled him, if he'd had myspace, I would have checked on it. I don't think it's creepy. To me, creepiness comes in when you consider the intentions behind checking up on someone. For example, my ex-(abusive) hubby, stalking me online so that he can figure out where I live and then give me hang-up phonecalls IS creepy. A birthmother reading about her birthchilds accomplishments, and looking at pictures for her own piece of mind, I don't find that creepy at all.
I think it's more about the intentions behind gaining information and the intentions on how it's going to be used.
Anyone searching for things on the internet about me because they want to know about me and my life, that's ok. If they want to use it to try to hurt me in some way, that's not ok.
Does that make sense?
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