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Also make sure that you ask yourselves if this is what you really want to do! Remember that adoption is forever.
One thing I wish is that I'd had open adoption as an option. So think about what sort of adoption you'd like to have. I was pushed into a closed adoption but it was extremely difficult for me on a number of levels not knowing anything about my son and not even being allowed to speak about it.
I'm in reunion now, and that's great, but it was nearly 22 years of silence.
A lot of what I've felt and what I've heard from a lot of other birthmothers on here is that we wish we'd understood the impact of giving up our children on us, as well as really having fully explored ALL options. I may have still chosen adoption, but it's hard to know for sure.
As far as questions to potential aparents, try to find someone with the same ideas as you guys have as far as contact and so on (open vs. closed adoption etc), and just remember that at anytime before signing the final papers, you can change your mind, for example if it starts to feel not right with parents you'd thought you'd chosen, you have the right to keep looking.
Others have more experiance with this. I wish you all the best in your decision making.
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