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Originally Posted by LisaAnn1170
To add to this, I have to say that people have very strong feelings/opinions about only children. When people find out that I was raised alone, I'm often called "spoiled." What a sad judgement. Similarly, my well-intentioned MIL has told me that you're not a real parent unless you have more than one (because there's no squabbling). It's funny to me that parenting one child evokes such strong emotions and judgements.
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Yes, it's so strange how people have to have these judgments on others.
On Father's Day 2006 - around the time we realized that the wait for our first and only child was going to ber very long - AND I had just had my second surgery for Stage IV endo - my husband's very rude friend asked me if we would adopt again. I told him that no, due to long waits, cost, etc - we would just have one child. He has 3 daughters, and he told me that having one child "isn't parenting". I was so angry that I refused to talk to him after that. It took over a year, but he finally apologized to me. I have accepted his apology and he and my DH are friends again. But him saying that to me was one of the rudest things anyone has ever said to me in my life. Whether parenting one or 25, we are all parents and should all support each other.
My DH was an only, and he is about the least spoiled person that I know.
So yes, blanket statements like that certainly don't fit everyone! I am the youngest of 4, and I am definitely spoiled - LOL.
