[RavenSong]

I think it's time for you to meet her face to face. Although email and phone calls are wonderful, I believe two people need to actually meet each other in person in order to develop a meaningful, lifelong relationship.

A couple things could be going on here. Your birthmom may be reluctant to say too much out of fear that she won't say the "right" thing or that she'll mess up somehow. That's a fairly common phenomenon in early reunion stages. I know it took me years after meeting my son until I didn't analyze every single sentence I said (usually afterwards).

The other thing that comes to mind is that your birthmom may be clinically depressed. I've had a few major depressions in my lifetime, and I know I get really quiet during those times. I have trouble talking on the phone, for example, if I'm going thru a depression. It doesn't seem to matter who the other person is on the phone, I just can't find the energy to talk...I can listen, but I can't talk if I'm depressed. Does that make sense?

I think maybe if you actually meet her in person, the situation may improve. I hope she opens up to you soon because I know this must be hurtful and frustrating for you. She may just not be very good at communicating her feelings...some people find it harder to open up than others. Have you tried writing her a letter about your concerns and fears?