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Depen6...I have had enough!!! You have no earthly I idea of what you are talking about. I put this post up to get some support and understanding, not to be belittle and talked down to. I have allowed my bdaughter to call all the shots in this reunion, even though some of the shots that were called were not good choices and choices that would not have flown with me from my other children. The "raised" children as you state ARE just as affected by this as the "put up" child is. My 16 daughter is strugglihg through this, she is/was my only girl and the oldest. Now alot has changed, but we are muddling through this as a family bc that is what families do. They work out their issues, and they love eachother through them. My bdaughter is the one who started calling me Mom from day 1, she is the one that was very presistent about me coming and meeting her f2f, ans she is also the one who wants to fly here to meet the rest of the family. That was all her, reguardless of whether she is 18 or 8, I do understand that she is not thinking with an adult mind yet...however you are the very person who told me not to tell her how to feel or how to deal with things. So with that being said I am only going based on what she is claiming to want, and I have talked to the amom and it i her that is not wanting the bdaughter not to come. Not the bdaughter. So I really think that unless you have something constructive to say you really should hold your tongue. Bc I am trying very hard to allow my bdaughter to form a relationship with me and still am encouraging her to maintain a relationship with the amom. I have put all of her needs over the last 6 weeks before mine, my husbands, and even my other children, and I am very sorry if you cant see it...especially since you don't know the whole story!!!
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