ooo that made me mad because I picture as a totally little "know it all" saying "Your not her REAL mommy" eww it just makes me mad.... it sounds like you handeld things fine.... especially because she was only 7 but as your daughter gets older if she starts to say things that hurt her feelings then I would just not let her come over anymore.... especially if they dont get along well.
And for someone who would be so bold to ask "what agency did you get her from" first thing out of their mouth do you ever just feel like lying and saying um my husband is from china? just to embaresses them? lol its somthing I would wish I would have said afterwards but never have thought of or actually had the courage to say when it happend. I would have a problem if someone was kind and honest and said " Im interested in adopting did you adopt your daughter?, Do you mind if I ask what agency you used etc" You know? Like polite and with some tack but to just walk up and say what agency did you get her from? It's a child, not a pair of shoes.
I guess there are tactless questions no matter what the stage of the game. Right now, as Im starting to tell people about my plans I keep getting people asking "What dont you want your OWN child"
agh! or " Oh Im so sorry!!" Why? Some people just dont get it, and thats fine I guess..... But they can stay away from me with their rude remarks......