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Originally Posted by dpen6
Why? To protect her birthmother or her?
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Both, perhaps. She wouldn't be having the dilemma she is writing about now if she didn't post in a public blog. Plus it's perfectly alright for some of our innermost thoughts/emotions/feelings to remain private. Not so much an issue of protecting anyone, but it is not necessary all the time to share every single emotion, espeically in early stages of reunion when everyone is so vulnerable. It's probably healthier to keep some things to ourselves and process them on our own. A simple matter of privacy and personal boundary is what it comes down to for me.
I would also add that the bmom has every right to express how a public blog entry made her feel. If we are putting our emotions out there, why should the bmom stifle hers? The bmom's expressing how the blog entry made her feel is just that--how she feels. It's not guilt tripping unless she were to say something like "how could you do this to me" or "I'm so disappointed in you!" On the contrary. The bmom was supportive, while also being honest in that those words made her feel badly. I will reiterate: if you put things out there for all to read, you have to be prepared for other people's reactions, espeically those who you are writing about! It might be better to keep those entries private.