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Jackie, see that is the thing my bdaughter is ready to meet the rest of my family. The amom just doesn't want to share her enough to let her do it. I have told my bdaughter that she is going to have to be the one to stand up to her amom on this. I can't do it for her, she needs her amom to know that it is something she wants to do for her, not for me. The amom and adad have never been much of a family to her nor has the extended afamily, and all my bdaughter has craved for the last 18 years is a close knit family. Fortunately or unfortunately how ever you want to look at it, I have a very close knit family with my immediate family and my extended family as well. The aparents are feeling very threatened by that. They are afraid that if she comes here and sees our family unit that she will turn her back on them for us. I don't want her to do that, I want her to continue to have a relationship with them. I just dont know how to make them see that I don't want to be in leui of them but in addition to them. She needs to continue her relationship with them, she is young and her she doesn't have to divide her loyalties. She really could have the best of both worlds if they would just calm down and stop putting so much pressure on her to write me and my family off. What I can't understand about them is don't they understand that the more pressure they put on her the more she is going to pull towards me? I love her and want a relationship with her very much, but I also want what is best for her and yes in the end that includeds her maintaining a relationship with her aparents. I just wish they wouldn't make it so hard on all of us.
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