[BeverlyZ]

How does she cope with physical contact when you are holding her? Increasing your positive cues to your daughter about physical contact with others may help her adjust. Of course you will see her comfort increase as her trust in you increases. Sounds like you are doing some great things to make this happen!

When our son came home, we debated the choice of having others hold him or not. We decided to hold him when he met new people, and I made a point to make physical contact with the other person (patting their cheek, holding their shoulder) meanwhile talking softly/soothingly and holding my son. Then, the other people held him briefly, and I was touching him the whole time (usually holding his hand). I took him back as soon as he signaled discomfort. His uncertainty was high at first but lessened over the first few months of being home.

Now we allow him to go to our family and friends w/o our physical contact. We stay within view and check with him often. He is adjusting to this well. If the contact with others is too much or if we step away from view, he will let us know during the next couple days!