[jrainbow]

Hope it is ok for an adoptee to answer. I've been in reunion almost a year - with both bmom and bdad. It is so hard to believe how much my life has changed in only 1 year. Yes, I consider it a success. My questions are answered - I've met and spent time with both of them - and I truly feel like I know who I am, based on nurture and nature. We all are working toward long term, comfortable relationships.

They have both expressed their relief and joy at knowing the rest of the story - and I am thrilled to know my history and medical information. We are all enjoying getting to know each other as adults.

It hasn't always been easy and it has definitely been emotional. Just last month, my bmom finally felt comfortable enough to let down some of her defenses and admit that it has sometimes been really hard for her. She is grateful that I kept communicating because she would have stopped along the way, when it hurt so much. Both my aparents have passed away so I don't have that loyalty issue which has made it easier - even though my aparents are still and always will be my parents.

I think the hardest part was trying to guess what was going on in the other 2 lives - and how they felt about everything. Most of this has been long distance and email and it is so hard to read another person during a very emotional time - what they really think, what they really mean, are you doing/saying the right thing, do they know what you really mean.

Interesting - Jill