[r0ller]

I have no problem with her birth father. we have always gotten along. He hasn't made any demands and was never pushy at all in the relationship with me or my wife.

He's much more of a screw up, though. He's a recovering alcoholic (no alcohol for 3 years) and had been unable to hold down a job because of his drinking. He's doing well now, taking it one day at a time.

I have big problems with her birth mother's morals, and her mannerisms, voice and general attitude make me almost physically ill. She is one of the most arrogant, condescending, egotistical, manipulative people I have ever had the misfortune to encounter. Her oldest son is not far behind. My wife's younger birth brother is much more easy-going and personable, but early on when I said I didn't want anything to do with her birth mother or oldest birth brother, she said she didn't she how I could maintain contact with the younger brother and not the rest of the family, and I said "Fine. I won't have contact with any of them."

I really don't know what I'm going to do. I hate to miss all the activities, but I honestly don't know how I can deal with her birth family being there. I know I will resent my wife an incredible amount for putting me in this situation, no matter what choice I make. It is really a no-win situation for me.