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These boys were my first placement and I had no idea what questions to ask, Five minutes before I picked them up I got a call and my Program Specialist asked if I knew any signs. As for services they came into the program foster to adopt and a week later the status changed to reunification and after the next court hearing in November I am told that parental rights will be terminated and they will be up for adoption again. Because the staus is reunification all services for the boys has been divereted to the Bio family to "Fix" things there. A-13 has nightmares the keep him up for hours and the rest of the house as well. He has also started wetting the bed which is new. B-5 has started kicking and spitting and being defiant. I know he is 5 but he is defiant beyond his age. Our CW is overloaded and our program specialist says he is working on it. That has been for the past two months. During this time A-13 has been grabbing girls buts and putting his hands down there pants. He has a history and I fear it will not be long before he is doing more than but grabbing. Everyone know this and just keeps telling me "Let me know if it happens again" Well I let them know and it is the same old thing. I am convienced that these two boys have the sweetest souls. With everything that they have been through they are just happy boys with big problems to deal with. There are so many smiles but there are also so many tears. I have begged for services but there are none. I have offered to pay privately and have been told that that would be a conflict. I have been so depressed and I know in my heart that I could be a better parent if I could find some help for the issues that they are dealing with. On top of all of that we have atleast two family visits a week and bahaviors after they come home are just plain bad. I guess after thinking about what I just typed there really is no help. I just need to grin and bear it. Thank you so much for your reply. I really needed to vent.
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