[amyfk]

This is an issue going on in my home now.
We have one adopted from Russia. I would like to adopt again, my dh does not. I have been trying to get him to do so for 1.5 years.
Thing is, MY dh is older as a dad-he's 46 and he's tired more easily. He was also onboard with the adoption when I had medical problems and couldnt conceive. He also is a great father to my child. so I have all that to be thankful for.
Like others said, you do have some finanical benefits wiht only one-we are taking our child to Jamaica next month to Beaches resort. We also own a nice home.
I think about giving her a sibling, but people tell me it can put a big strain on my marriage if I bring a second child into the family.
I dont know about the adult years, but so far as an only my child is doing ok. Ive asked my therapists and they feel that if a person is social, they will have many loved ones and friends later on in life anyway.
Also I agree with the other poster-one shouldnt have more than one kid to have elder care later on, with the mobility of today's families you just dont know, your kid can end up living in california and you can be retired in NY.
Amy K, NJ