[Vogi2002]

I (emphasis) am going to try to keep this respectful. A discussion to get one thinking.

I have talked to about 4 of my very good friends, who happen to be AA. They all had the same conclusions, when I talked about the reasons I had been hearing they were all very confused. NONE of them placed any biasis on a person who simply didn't choose to adopt transracially, they all got that. But the biracial and not full AA confused them, and frankly made them curious as to how a person (not all as thier is particular cases that have good reason, being an interracial couple, etc) can embrace a culture in order to adopt into a race...but not accept it fully.


Reason #1. Community.
- You will face the same racism as you would if you had a full AA child. This is a FACT. If anything you might recieve more. A community that isn't going to accept a full AA child won't accept a biracial child and isn't a community I can or ever will live in.

Reason #2. Sharing your heritage.
- I respect this IF and only IF you are not open to any other "full" race other than your own, including Guatemalan, hispanic, asian, etc. They wouldn't share your heritage either so why are THEY okay? Why is it only important for a child to be 1/2 white if they are mixed with the black race?

Reason #3. Child will connect with the "white part" better (or whatever that reason was).
- False, about as false as you can get IMO. Also, see the reason above's argument. Same applies. To be ready to parent a child of a completely different culture means ready for AA, hispanic, etc.

Reason #4. Your choice.
- I personally believe we have a lot of personal responsibility when having a child of another race (even when in combination with your own race). I believe that you must dive down and find out why full AA makes you uncomfortable. We have to be sure of this, because we owe our future children this. So while I respect a choice that is made, we can't just easily stop there. There is a reason why so many of my AA friends were appalled by this and even more appalled after reading this thread and the reasons.

Reason #5. White birthparents.
- I'm not sure why a black birthparent would make you uncomfortable unless aren't around that many AA people and aren't comfortable around AA people in general. I don't prefer to talk to someone by thier race, and if you adopt transracially I believe you must get past this, because your child NEEDS interaction between AA people so you have to be comfortable with them. I assume that if this were your reason you will accept NO other races unless a white birthparent was involved (so no hispanic, asian, latino, greek, cuban, indian, native american birth parents or full race child) correct?


I don't make people into bad people, you are not a bad person for not choosing to adopt transracially. You are not a bad person for choosing to adopt a biracial child but not AA. I am just challenging your beliefs and your reasons, as they don't add up to me. I am not calling you racist, but many people I believe still have prejuduces toward AA (think about how many MORE people are willing to adopt biracial but not full AA...but are more than willing to go overseas and adopt a baby from a COMPLETELY different culture). As a whole...this shows you that there IS still racism very much alive in the adoption community. I'm not saying you are all racist...I'm talking in general.

Some people are simply called to adopt a biracial child...I get that, but I have not heard anyone say "I am okay with adopting AA child, I was just called to choose biracial...I'm not sure why but I felt that is where God has led me to". Instead I hear reasons that it is best "for the child" which is true if you believe it, but it may also be best not to adopt a biracial child either, because like it or not society (as will the child in ALL of the cases I know) will view them as black. They are BLACK and they are WHITE. They lose NONE of thier "blackness" being biracial.


In the end, and once again, just because I respect your opinion doesn't mean I agree with it.