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Hi,
My husband and mother-in-law are only children and both are very content about it all. I think the stereo types of only children = spoiled brats/unhappy childhoods is really regretable.
We actually stuggled with this very issue. For me, I was more concerned about dd being an only because she won't have any cousins. Our good friends have an only child, but they live close to family. Their daughter has a sibling like relationship with her cousins. In many ways, it's the best of both worlds.
Ultimately, we have opted to adopt again and will be bringing our son home this summer. I had to make sure that we were adopting #2 because we wanted to parent 2 children.......not because #1 needed a sibling. KWIM?
One of the things I regret about IA is the fact you need to plan so far ahead now. I struggled with this question for almost 2 years, when I really just needed to "table" the issue. My best advice is go with your gut and do what's right for your family. Also give yourself permission to change your mind if you and your spouse's feelings evolve over time.
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Melissa
dh-Bill
dd-Lilianna Mei
 
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