[EZ2Luv]

I agree with how you dealt with it as well. As an adoptee I believe that pictures and personal information shared about biomom and biofamily should only be discussed around family. Se thi is where I draw the line with open adoption. How much is too open. I think open adoption is good overall but a six , seven or eight year old shouldn't be carrying around or showing pics of their biofamily. Maybe because I am so grateful that I was raised in a closed adoption. For me I cannot imagine feeling like I was torn or had to share my love with 2 mothers. In all honesty I might have done the same thing as your daughter had I known and was in that position.
Please do not beat yourself up. Even though the reality is your dd has a biomom you ARE her Momma, you ARE parenting her YOU make the choices and call the shots. I know it must hurt and kill you to hear the things she says about going to live with her biomom, but honestly she is only saying this to push your buttons. This woman is basically a stranger to gher that has only became a reality because she has seen pictures and heard stories about her beginnings. Myself I would have waited to share that infomation with her, but since she already knows the best you can do is let her know this is special family stuff that we do not share with friends or schoolmates
I am by no means saying to lie to a child about adoption, but certain things MUST remain within the family. Some children do not understand this because it is so freely discussed within the home.

EZ