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Longtimewaiting, you are so very correct. She is very mature on some levels and so very immature on others. I am not saying anything about the amom at all. She had her say and I bit my tongue. I practically bit it off but I did bite it nonetheless. As far as the pulling away goes, we go through it every single weekend. I will hear from her all day on fridays but come friday night until late sunday night or monday morn I dont hear from her. I know that is probably not the pulling away everyone is talking about, but for now it does help us both keep things in perspective. It is hard for me not hear from her over the weekends, not b/c I am missing her but b/c who knows what kind of trouble she is getting herself into (especially since she has no supervision). But I just try really hard to wait it out I may send a text or two reminding her that I am her, but nothing pushy. I hate that she does it, but I let her b/c it is good for both of us. And I do know that there may come a point when she pulls back completely, at least for that moment in time. It probably wont be my favorite but I will respect her wishes. I just want what is best for her and if it means not having me in her life than I will deal with that. For now I just keep my mouth shut about the aparents, love her, try not to parent her, and allow her to decide when she needs me and when she needs to back down a bit. Honestly that is really all I can do...
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