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Originally Posted by aclee
My Favorite Inspirations!
Excuses are the nails used to build a house of failure.
Don Wilder
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Difficulty is the excuse history never accepts.
Edward R. Murrow
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Ninety-nine percent of the failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses.
George Washington Carver
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Francois De La Rochefoucauld
Nothing is impossible; there are ways that lead to everything, and if we had sufficient will we should always have sufficient means. It is often merely for an excuse that we say things are impossible.
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So will you be able to tell your child, I adopted you because adopting a CC (or BR or whatever) child was easier because that's what everyone else did? I think there is a bigger life lesson here...
I'm reading "Black Baby, White Hands, a view from the crib." About the first documented transracial adoption in the US. He was born in 1965. It's 2008 and there are still people finding reasons why adopting an AA baby would be to hard?
**I guess now everyone can see why I stay out of these conversations  |
That's all warm and fuzzy and everything, but it's not about it being easier for us. It's about giving a child whom I have the CHOICE to adopt but who does not have the choice to adopt me, the best possible situation they can be given.
IT'S NOT ABOUT US
IT'S NOT ABOUT US
IT's NOT ABOUT US!!
IT is about the CHILD!
Seriously. We want the best for the child. We are fine with people looking askance at us, even disliking us for our choices. What we are not fine with is making a child who never chose this life a pawn in our own quest to save the world from racism.
We believe that the best environment in which to raise an AA or mixed AA and something else child is in a community with a strong, positive, vibrant AA community.
Read Rita Simon's book, read the first essay, and come back and tell me you don't agree.
The kids who get plenty of opportunities to make AA friends, have AA teachers, mentors, role models, etc...if they also have two white parents--they do much better than those who are isolated.