[reneeof3]

My husband is AA, I'm white. Just because you say bi-racial, does not mean "AA/white". I have two biological sons who are biracial of Hispanic/white mix, and our adoptive daughter is biracial, AA/white. When I was married the first time and had my sons, THEY preferred to be referred to as "Hispanic" and that culture, and I supported that. I never questioned their reason, but now that they are grown, it's not even discussed, nor was it ever a problem when they were young. I never was asked if they were mine even though I'm very pale and they are "mocha" color, just like our adopted daughter.

My point is that just don't worry so much. I think a lot has to do with where you live too. We live in a VERY culturally diverse area of the Country, one of the reasons the birthmother wanted us to adopt her AA/CC baby because her part of the Country this baby would have been very unaccepted by friends, family and she would have to leave the area. Very sad.

With my daughter when we go out, most people just say how beautiful she is and doesn't question if it's mine. As your child ages, its of paramount importance that you educate him/her about both races and expose the child to other children of the same race, and also adopted children as well if possible. It will help your child develop and grow with more understanding of his/her culture and that being adopted is something to be proud of. There are a lot of good books too on this, and PACT Alliance is an agency in CA that not only places national/international babies, the owner is an author with personal experience, but they also offer a wonderful array of books, classes, seminars.