Deb - (((hugs))) it's not you, it's them. Honestly, my bson has said he's had a great life and to some degree that bothers me. I'm not sure if it's for my benefit or his. Although, I have learned to expect the worse and hope for the best. I do hope your bmom comes around, she may but don't fault her for not being able to - she may care too much and have regrets. When my bson wrote me and told me that his aparents divorced when he was 3 my husband (bdad) and I were so angry because we figured if we had married we would have made it that far along! Of course, they are wonderful people (from what he's told me) so I'll have to wait and see. Maybe the hardest part of reunion is accepting that the other person didn't get to live the "fairy tale". For me, either way, it is a bitter pill. Take care you.
