[lalgee]

Yes, I see what you mean. Given those circumstances and the years that this has taken place, you just might gain a little sanity by taking control like that. That is what you have to do sometimes. Your heart has been really open to her and she tramples it over and over. You, being the adult, have left the door open for a long time and no matter how mature someone is, enough is enough.
I hope I didn't sound as if I were second guessing you - I just really didn't understand what you were going thru since I have not been afforded the opportunity for reunion. I want to prepare myself in the event I ever do get that priviledge, and truly asked in naivete. Thanks for the grace with which you answered those questions I asked.
We're with you, girl. This isn't easy, and cutting her off like that will probably be like losing her again. But we're standing with you for all that is worth.