Wow!
First off...sorry about all the turmoil your lil girl had to go through. Second...Im sorta in the same situation. Only my lil girl is only 18months we have had her for over 13months. She was victim of alot of abuse both during pregnancy and in her first few months of life. Her bio-dad is my husbands nephew. TPR happened over a month ago, neither have called since first week of December and have not seen her in over 6mo. Both VERY violent, very heavy into drugs and alcohol. We are struggling with any type of contact. Although my lil princess does not know who her bio-parents are, and I pray that she has no memory or consequences of her abuse. I still wonder what the right thing to do is. Now I cant even begin to consider any type of visits. But I question if even letters and pics are what we should do. Neither bio-parent has really showed any interest in her...unless it was to deter us from adopting, they have not even requested a good-bye visit.
With your daugther being older Id say it would have to be in her best interest and it really does NOT seem like it is. One thing that our SW suggested was that if visits were agreed on, they would take place in front of a therapist whom could decide if the visits were going to hinder the child, and if they were visits would be terminated! I feel like its so hard when dealing with family, especially when the child they hurt...is the child that you love so much. Its hard to see any reason they need to be part of the childs life. I pray that you find the answers that you are searching for!
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