[Mockingbird]

I think you should give her that option. I believe that I told you before that I didn't search for my son because I thought he was healthy and happy and didn't need me causing turmoil in his life--I was wrong. He needed me. If I had known that, I would have tried to find him long ago. If you find out who your mother is and where she is and if you have the courage, you can give her that choice. Yes, she may not want to have a relationship with you--but she does owe you the courtesy of telling you about her situation and why she gave you up, and of filling you in on your medical history. When my son contacted me, he said that he had questions about family medical history and he didn't want to disrupt my life--but I wasn't about to let him get away. He's had some pretty rocky places in his life; but he has survived them. I'm so proud of him; and I'm absolutely crazy about him!