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Old 04-24-2008, 06:48 AM
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Hey hon, the only suggestion i have that would leave both u and ur sister without any guilt of secrets is this: Anonymously send her a message on the registry site that u think you've located her bmom. Give her ur mom's name, address, and any other pertinant info, and tell her to make contact. If she asks how u found it, tell her that ur ways of getting info are a private matter, but that ur 100% sure it's her bmom. She'll not know that it was her bsister giving her this info unless u tell her. She will contact ur mom, and hopefully u can go from there. u can also keep in contact with her on the registry site as a "friend" to stay connected until she learns of a sister! You wouldn't be lying to anyone and ur still not betraying ur mom. Me personally, I'm an adoptee. I would give ANYTHING if even 1 person contacted me. It would hurt tho 2 know that after i went through SO MUCH just to find my bmom, that my sister was sitting there all the time reading my posts and not saying anything. At least this way u can say that u tried to help BOTH sides come to grips with what happened. Good Luck!
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12/27/07~sent my first letter to State of TN to request opening of adoption records.

3/6/08~Got approved to open my closed records!
3/27/08~my 23rd birthday & the day i opened my records in Nashville, TN!!! My name is SUMMER & my mom's name is ANNETTE!!! GOD!!!

5/1/08~i got the letter telling me they've begun searching for my BFamily!!! I can't WAIT!!!

8/15/08~ I got the info to call my BMOM 2day...she LOVES me and wants a close relationship!!!


"Heredity or enviroment...which are you the product of? Neither my darling, neither, just two different kinds of love." Author Unknown
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