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Originally Posted by buttascotchbaby
Excuse me, I know I am just being facetious and I know that is not what people are saying, but really, if you are only wanting to adopt BR children b/c you think they have a greater chance of being lighter and "look more like you", what happens if that doesn't eventuate??
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I did not say I wanted a half CC child because I wanted them to look more like me. Please read my post carefully. I don't think there is anything at all wrong with wanting to share PART of my child's caucasian
ethnic heritage. I want to be able to share something with them, like maybe their birth mother has family in Ireland or Germany, as I do...maybe we can take a trip together someday and share that. That's all.
They aren't going to look like me no matter what--if I was really concerned with that I would only want a white blonde haired blue eyed baby.
I know it's very much the party line in the adoptive community to be against choosing not to adopt full AA babies when you are open to biracial/multiethnic, whatever you want to label it. But as another poster said, we have to make these decisions based on what our personal situations are like.
I'm not judging anyone else, and I find it ironic that people who consider themselves so tolerant are so judgemental about another person's very personal decision.
Obviously if that doesn't 'eventuate' we will be thrilled and totally in love with our child, no matter what color. I don't feel at all ashamed of wanting to share part of my child's ethnicity.