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My oldest son (age 6) is from Guatemala. He knows that and is very proud of his birth country. When we started our second adoption, we were at first open to bi-raciality, but not full AA. Why? That whole thought, "Will we raise them fairly, how will our community accept it...etc...etc" Let me correct that...my husband had these thoughts...race did not matter to me. However, after lots of soul searching (we were waiting probably over a 1 year before we changed our profile), the answer was born into his heart and we never looked back. I wanted a CHILD, to me, I didn't necessarily want it to be about an AA child or a hispanic child or a bi-racial child. A lot of people may disagree....and feel that race has to be important and be a huge consideration. I understand and respect that....but the bottom line is..everyone has to do what is right for their family and their level of comfort. I don't believe that if someone chooses not to adopt an AA child it is racist or unfair or whatever. A family's dynamics, community, resources, feelings, etc all HAVE to be part of the equation. It is SUCH a personal journey when one tries to complete their family....and while advice is wonderful (please keep it coming!) you still must heed the desires of YOUR heart.....
Good luck on YOUR journey!
God Bless,
Michelle
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