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Well, this is an issue I worry about a lot as I ponder reunion. We are not at that stage yet. Just waiting for an email sent through an intermediary is hard enough! If we plan to meet and reunite, however, I do consider it a commitment. Whether my son will, I don't know yet. I hope he will and that if either of us are experiencing any overwhelming emotions that lead to pullback, that we are able to at least let the other person know what's going on and have some sort of plan to touch base at a set time in the future, so as not to keep the other guessing/worrying. I know there are no guarantees, but this is how I'd like to approach it.
I don't know if it's morally wrong to cut someone out totally, but I do know it would be hurtful to me if my son did this because I've already gone through the pain of relinquishment once. I cannot imagine wanting to cut him out completely at all. Heck, I've been communicating with him/his family through the agency his whole life, so I although I can imagine feeling overwhelmed in reunion (I already have just anticipating it), I cannot imagine never communicating with him again.
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