this is something I have done too
It is very hard for a birthmom!!! I even lied to myself that my child was going to be babysat!!! I lied to someone that my 3 1/2 year old who I placed with my brother had died!!!! We all do some unexplained things we get caught in the lie eventually and have to deal with the truth!!!! Its is so very hard it has been 3 years since my youngest left and it has been so hard and hes with my brother in another state!!! But because I have been through it dont push he completely away but set boundrys you both can live with cause this is your child now that you have to protect!!!! She will have to respect that!!! Also just keep her informed but the visits so much is going to hurt her more in the long run!!! Just my opinion but GOOD LUCK!!!! I feel for both you and the birthmom but one day your adopted child will know you did the best for him or her!!!!
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