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As an adoptee from the closed era, I can also say that I am grateful that my adoption was closed. However, I could NEVER suggest that to anyone because every situation is different. When I was about 18 yrs or so my Amom asked me if I ever wanted to know my Bmom and I honestly said no. My fear was I would be so confused as to where my loyalty would be and I did not want top share my self with anyone else but my Amom, the only mother I ever knew and wanted.
It wasn't until I was in my l;ate 40s that a medical situation forced me to search and after I found Bfamily I was even more grateful that I was adopted.
That was only my experience with closed adoption. There are so many other adoptees with different outlooks than mine. They grew up always missing something, not fitting in, feeling rejected, ect, for them OA would have worked to their benefit.
A few years back prior to my search, I might have written a post similar to yours because I was unaware of how many adoptees are not as fortuante as myself and have many issues surrounding their adoption. Some are searching for years to find that missing peice of their life to feel complete. I cannot even imagine how that must feel.
Today I can honestly say that I feel OA is a great option. There are different degrees of OA (semi,ect) not all are like the one you saw on TV(I didn't see it) so I really cannot say,but it sounds like it is not typical of OA.
Just because your closed adoption worked out well does not mean that all adoptees have been blessed that way.
I learned very quickly that things in the world of adoption are not all black or white, there are various shades of gray in between.
EZ
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