Please remember NOT ALL ADOPTIONS ARE THE SAME. Please do not generalize and say it's crazy to have an open adoption.
I think maybe you could educate yourself a bit more OA as the parents who are raising the child "calls the shots" not the birthfamily. Most Birthfamilies I have met are not wacko, but are just people, just like you, just like me. They are just people.
Please be respectful of others when you post.
Belle, I thank you for this:
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When I placed my son for adoption, I chose open adoption for him. I'm not coparenting, I see him four times a year and talk to him on the phone once a month. Trust me, it hurts like heck to watch him call another woman mom, I hate it when they discipline him in ways that I wouldn't use and I have to keep my mouth shut. I don't really even like his mom in retrospect, but that is who I chose, so I try my hardest to get alone with her for my son's sake. It isn't co-parenting and it isn't always fun for me, trust me. I'd a million times rather be the one paying his bills, kissing his booboos, and staying up nights with him.
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