Nicole
Speaking from a bmom's perspective, I'd have loved my son to be in charge - If he had known and vocalised what he wanted from me and of me - had clear boundaries and knew the pace he wished the reunion to take. That would be like having a plan and working through it.
However, IMHO neither party in reunion has enough common sense or courage to set it out like that. Pity!!! It would save so many hurt moments,
impatient episodes
and nervous twitches.
Ann