[Renda]

Ferney,

I have just read your post about open adoption, although it was posted two years ago now.

I't a shame that you had to grow up with all that, I don't believe in open adoption for exactly some of the things you described.

I still think that an open adoption is more about the birthmother than the child.

For the child's sake if you want it to have a new life, then let it go and keep records open for when it is older.

This way it only has one set family to deal with and that is usually enough when growing up. Any curiosity can be dealt with when the child is grown up it is then their choice to trace parents and being an adult they may find it easier to deal with. They hopefully will have the bedrock of the real family (adopted family) behind them.

Hope things are better in your adult life,


Renda