[agathaj]

I think from what you have written is that when you reunited with your bmother she expected you to want to walk back into her life and be fully embraced by bsiblings and herself. But you didn't. Instead you had your own agenda for the reunion AND she had hers. Unfortunately these agenda are/were POLES apart so both sides got hurt and she has pulled back - probably because she just doesn't understand why you wanted things to be so different. She has no idea of what it is like to be an adoptee. I am not saying either side is wrong just that perhaps after all these years it's time to find a middle ground? Having said that if you meet and agree on some things ie email contact every two weeks or f2f every six months or whatever and she lets you down without a good reason then it's time to walk away or accept that it's just a xmas card/birthday card relationship. It is sad. Good luck to you.