MoonAngel
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Someone had mentioned that my mom wouldn't have told me if she didn't want me to know. Well she has said a few times since I found my sister that she wishes she never had told me & that if she knew I was going to search she wouldn't have. My mom is so stubborn & I don't see her coming around to the idea of contact ever. My sister will have to make the contact & then possibly if she is found she will open up, but until then she is not giving in. I wish she could find her & that would open my moms heart up to a relationship. I pray she finds her & that in turn opens the door for our relationship.
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Hiding our collective heads in the sand does not work..
Its far more painful where she is.. in my thinking.. but its so hard to get this very important fact across to someone that will not accept that this stuff needs to be sorted..
I do not think we can force people to come out of hiding.. but we do not need to help in the hiding..
page 19... Further Along the Road Less Traveled.. Scott Peck..
...So the myth is true. We really can not go back to Eden.. We must go
forward through the desert. But the journey is hard and consciousness
is often painful. And so most people stop their journey as quickly as
they can. They find what looks like a safe place, burrow into the
sand, and stay there rather than go forward through the painful
desert, which is filled with cactuses and thorns and sharp rocks..
Even if most people have been taught at one time or another that
"those things that hurt, instruct" (to borrow Benjamin Franklin's
phrase), the education of the desert is so painful they discontinue it
as early as they can..
Senility is not just a biological disorder. It can also be a
manifestation of a refusal to grow up, a psychological disorder
preventable by anyone who embarks on a lifetime pattern of
pyschospiritual growth. Those who stop learning and growing early in
their lives and stop changing and become fixed often lapse into what
is sometimes called their "second childhood". Then become whiny and
demanding and self-centered. But this isn't because they have entered
their second childhood. They have never left their first, and the
veneer of adulthood is worn thin, revealing the emotional child that
lurks underneath..
This last paragraph is kind of harsh and I am tempted to delete it..
But.. others are suffering from her desire to keep the secret..
Jackie