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I have three closed adoptions but speak out about the positives of open adoption. #3 was open for us for only about 6 months--so I speak from very little experience in OA. The time we had that was open was a good experience on our side of things. It was just too difficult for (I)'s first mom. Even though I say it was good for us, everything was not what I would call easy. We were still working through the nervousness and it was causing more grief for (I)'s first mom. There were honesty issues, trust issues and other issues that I think we could have worked through, but it just was not meant to be at the time I's first-mom closed communications. I think that will change someday down the road.
Our situation is a bit unique because (J) & (S) were international adoptions and (I) was not only a domestic adoption, but was our first placement for cradle care.
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